Treat yourself and your partner the way you treat and love your child or children. (hopefully.)

Would you yell at your child? Tell her or him or them how awful they are? No you would not, and when a child witnesses a parent degrading another parent, what they see is a part of them degrading and being degraded because children do not seperate their sense of self from their parents for a long long time. So be careful and caring and why would you yell at your partner? That is the most important person in your world, that is the person you chose because in your heart you knew they were simply perfect for you. Do not destroy that with your words or self hatred or hatred. Build upon it. Choose to be good.